Designing a Perfect Imperfect Life

Coloring outside the lines. Create your own happiness.

Casual* intro of who I am …

*casual – no make up, hat head (from wearing a baseball cap all day) & lounging in PJ pants on a Friday night after a long week of work .. Life isn’t about being/looking perfect, it’s about designing your own version of the perfect imperfect! It doesn’t get more real than that.

A perfect imperfect life …

Do you have a “plan” for how your life is expected to go and then it simply does not happen that way? I did.

For me, I was taught at an early age that you go to school, get a career, get married, have kids, move to the suburbs and then work hard at the same job until it’s time to retire at the good age of 65. Sound familiar? I never questioned this until my “plan” suddenly stopped, after 6 years of trying to become pregnant, when a doctor told me I had less than a 1% chance of having my own child and that I should give up the idea now… Little did I know, it was one of the best things that could have happened to me. 

As a designer, I have the skills to create beautiful art. I use these skills in my profession as a lighting artist for computer animated films, as well as in my everyday life through photography, home design, and crafts. But the real superpower of a designer is not the creative work itself, but the ability to use the same skills to affect your overall happiness. Instead of accepting that there is nothing to done when given an impossible situation and feeling defeated, I see the opposite – I look for the potential and hidden beauty in the situation to solve the problem. I think of multiple alternatives and start testing, visualizing and iterating multiple solutions and reframing what a perfect life means. Life is full of imperfections and rarely does everything work out as planned. Now I am living my perfect imperfect life and I am determined to continue coloring outside the lines to make it that much better.

I will be documenting my journey as a working mom looking for the elusive work|life balance as well as my journey as an entrepreneur as I utilize my designer mindset to help me overcome obstacles. I hope you join me on this journey.

Let’s do this!

My Fertility Story

The reason I started this site was when I “came out” with my fertility struggles. It was through sharing my journey that has allowed me to grow and feel comfortable to share my life journey with you. Therefore, my journey to motherhood is dear to my heart, not because of the miracle kids I have due to it, but because of the process I went through, it has made me into the person I am today. If you are not familiar with my fertility story, you are welcome to read about it below.


Here’s to less than 1% …

My story starts with my 6 + year struggle of getting pregnant.  There was a point where a doctor told me I had less than a 1% chance of having my own baby and that I should start looking into adoption or an egg donor.

Fast forward, I now have my daughter, T and my son, Lee and a day never goes by where I don’t feel so grateful and lucky to have them in my life.  I hid my story for a long time from family, friends, even from myself in some ways, but now I am telling my story in hopes that it helps others so they know they are not alone.

As I went through my IVF journey for the second little miracle, now my son, Lee – I  decided to document the process through journal entries and FB live feeds which you can view here.

I created this to help you go through this impossibly hard journey – to design what seems like an imperfect life into your own version of perfect. Remember, there is no such thing as the “perfect” life, even those you think that have the “perfect” life are most definitely going through struggles you have no idea about. Join me in creating the new concept of “perfect”. A Perfect Imperfect Life. 


Snippets from my thoughts and life through journal entries.

Jet Black

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Newborn Baby Essentials

Preparing for your first child is definitely an overwhelming experience.  Looking back, I was continually bombarded with items I thought I "needed" to get.  I didn't want to be the only parent unprepared (mom shaming starts early!).   After having T, I wanted to write...

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National Infertility Awareness Week 2018

It's National Infertility Awareness Week ... Someone on social media was kind enough to send me a link nominating me as an Infertility Social Warrior. This is someone that I have never met and I only know through sharing my story publicly.   Getting this simple...

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happy easter!

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