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Designing a Perfect Imperfect Life

Coloring outside the lines. Design your own happiness

Every year, we host an annual pumpkin carving part

Every year, we host an annual pumpkin carving party. This year, since we couldn't have our plan A - having a big party, or our plan B - having a small party, or our plan C - having family over ... D - carving in the park with friends (doh, it rained!) ... it just wasn't working out!
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What do you do when plan A doesn't work? We've all heard about having a plan B ... but what if that doesn't work out either? Is it time to quit?
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noooo!! (although, it would be so easy to)
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No matter what happens to plan A, B, G, Q, Z... there is always another plan. The key is to use an artist's mindset in how you think and approach obstacles. When one thing does not work, the next step is to brainstorm alternatives, figure out the best alternative, and take action.
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You will never be stuck for long and plan Q will most likely be better than what you hoped for in your plan A!
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If you ever feel down because your plan A, B .. did not work, don't call it quits. I can show you the tools you need to keep moving forward to accomplish your goals.
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and if you are wondering what happened to our pumpkin party - we had a fantastic party of 4, at home. It was wonderful and the best part was no cleanup from a party required! Swipe to see photos of our Plan E pumpkin carving! 🎃

We are all SUPERHEROES pretending to be normal.⁠

We are all SUPERHEROES pretending to be normal.⁠
It’s all about mindset and how we see life.⁠
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Let’s stop being normal and be the SUPERheroes you know you are!!⁠
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What is your superpower? ⁠
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[Alarm clock] Beep Beep Beep BEEP BEEP! ⁠ "OKAY,

For those who may be struggling to get pregnant, I

For those who may be struggling to get pregnant, I am writing this for you. ⁠
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I dreamed of silly selfies like these when I was trying to get pregnant. I imagined what it would be like to have a child. What kind of mom would I be? Would she/he be a mini-me? (Wow, that would be strange!)⁠
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These memories popped up in my head as T's recent favorite activity is to do "same as" selfies, where she makes a face, and I copy her and vice versa. She smiled happily, saying, "same as mom!" as she flipped through the pictures.⁠
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T will be five next month, and I still can't believe that this dream is my reality. I almost lost all hope in this dream, and I am grateful every day that I did not. ⁠
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To those trying, please do not lose hope. I know all too well how hard it can be. But, dreams do come true. Perhaps not exactly how you envisioned, often better. ⁠
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Sending you lots of 💛 and hope.

It's starting to look a lot like HALLOWEEN!! ⁠ .

It's starting to look a lot like HALLOWEEN!! ⁠
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We've been going on spooky decorated house hunts the weekends leading up to Halloween. Still not sure what Halloween will look like this year with covid, but I love that we can do things like this. ⁠
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To all those that decorate their places - THANK YOU!! I want to let you know that you are giving kids joy, like T and Lee, more than you know! (and for us adults!!) THANK YOU!!! ⁠
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Happy weekend!! ⁠
xx, Jasmine⁠
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#nycmom #nyckids #uws #halloweendecor #citykids #perfectimperfectlife

"Mom! Can you read all the things you are happy ab

"Mom! Can you read all the things you are happy about?" ⁠⠀
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-T at the breakfast table as I have my #bulletjournal out to my #gratitude page. ⁠⠀
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Every morning I write one thing I am grateful for. T asked me one morning what I was writing, and I told her that I write one thing that makes me happy so that I start the day remembering how great life is. ⁠⠀
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Since then, she asks me to read them out loud to her, and the way she smiles when I read it, you would think they were her own. I love it. (I might add that to what I'm grateful for today! lol) ⁠⠀
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Some snippets: ⁠⠀
💛 I am grateful to be able to pick up and drop off my kids at school. (In the past, pick up was never something I could do!)⁠⠀
💛 Grateful to have an artistic and creative problem-solving mind.⁠⠀
💛 Grateful that I am employed and live the life I do in NYC⁠⠀
💛Grateful for lazy Sunday mornings with the family⁠⠀
💛Grateful for good coffee and fresh-baked chocolate croissants. ⁠⠀
💛Grateful to be able to run in Central Park every day⁠⠀
💛Grateful to wake up to the happy sounds of dad and Lee playing⁠⠀
❤️Grateful for an amazingly supportive and inspiring Instagram community.⁠⠀
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When I first heard about keeping a #gratitudejournal, I have to admit that I didn't do it when I first heard about it. I was deep into my #fertilityjourney, and I didn't think it would make a difference. ⁠⠀
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BUT do you know what? IT DOES!⁠⠀
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I started doing this towards the end of my journey and have continued to do so. This simple act (that takes no longer than a minute) reminds me of whatever is going on in my day/life, amazing parts of it that I am incredibly grateful for. ⁠⠀
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On this Friday morning, I encourage you to write your line of gratitude. (+ If you feel comfortable, please share it in the comments; I would love to read your gratitudes!) ⁠⠀
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Happy Friday! ⁠⠀
💛, Jasmine⁠⠀

Why? ⁠ This is the seemingly simple question tha

Why? ⁠
This is the seemingly simple question that has made the most dramatic changes in my life. ⁠
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One of my most significant sliding door moments was sitting in a room full of investment bankers in an interview during my senior year of college, and they asked me, "WHY do you want to be an Investment banker?" --> It was like I had woken up for the first time; why? ... well, actually, I don't! I wish I can tell you I pulled off some dramatic NO response and walked out of there strong and empowered; I did that in my head. But in reality, I gave a very BS answer, which was the last finance interview I ever went to. ... It's because of that moment that I pursued my passions for the arts. ⁠
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Since this moment, I ask myself - WHY? Quite often. It's because you can figure out a lot by really thinking about your why. ⁠
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During my fertility journey - it started with: ⁠
Why do I want to have a baby? ⁠
My answers to that why brought things to the forefront that I never realized. Somethings that I could address and achieve without a baby. ⁠
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It also gave me the drive to keep ongoing. After a failed cycle, feeling down and full of meds ... I thought about my "why." and it gave me the strength to persevere.⁠
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In motherhood, it comes in the form of when I am making decisions for my family, in my professional career, and with @jazzkatat - "Why?" - it keeps me grounded and focused on the right priorities. ⁠
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As you can see, I use this in every part of life! ⁠
If you haven't asked yourself, "why?" lately, I encourage you to do so. You might surprise yourself with the answer. It could be a realization that you shouldn't be spending time doing a particular thing or give you that extra strength and push to keep on going because your WHY is a pretty d*mn good WHY! ⁠
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Sending lots of 💛, Jasmine⁠
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#lifedesigner #womenempowerment #transformation #lifecoach #soulsearching #lifecoaching #selfdevelopment #growth #perfectimperfectlife #designyourlife #designingyourlife #fertilitywarrior #ttc #ivf #1in8 #hope #iui #ivfsuccess #fertility #ttcsisters #ttcjourney #ttcsupport #nycmom #nycfamily #momlife #familyselfie

If I allow T to be and do what she loves at a youn

If I allow T to be and do what she loves at a young age perhaps it will save her years of “discovering” her joys in adulthood 💛 — growing up I was repeatedly told I should be a doctor, I had to be a doctor ... I couldnt do this, I couldn’t do that... doctor was the best choice. What do you think happened?
I was taught to not prioritize what gave me true joy, I was pre med in college and I did horribly. Felt lost ... and it was only after college did I finally take the courage to go back and pursue things that I love.
Years pass as I take the time to discover my joys ... imagine if I were encouraged to do this at a young age?
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Princesses and fairy tales ... T's favorite. When T was born, I have to say - I made it a point to not dress her all up in pink and all the "girly" things. ⁠
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Yet, here we are - T wears something pink nearly every day, and her favorite thing is to play princess. Hahaha. ⁠
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What happened? ⁠
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Well, two things - ⁠
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1. As T got older, she started having her own opinions/interests <--- I know! Can you believe it??⁠
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2. The one big thing. I stopped trying to impose my style/opinions on her and listened to what she liked to do. I know it sounds obvious, but it was one of those realization moments with myself where I realized I needed to let go of control.⁠
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Our identities are formed at such a young age. I recently read by age 8, much of the personal identity is established. Crazy right? ⁠
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So, now I ask questions and listen. What are your favorite colors? What do you love doing? Then I do my best to foster her passions instead of hindering them.⁠
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*Although, she has started to critique my artwork, “mom, that should be blue not purple ..” (I'm not sure how I feel about that! lol)⁠
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#nyckid #nycmom #momlife #motherhoodunplugged #perfectimperfectlife #fertilitywarrior #raisingagirl #princessesandfairytales #yourjoy

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