Meditation. I started practicing meditation during my previous infertility journey. I had mentioned in my infertility story, that I felt like I tried everything from western to eastern methods. Meditation was no exception. One of the biggest challenges when going through something like this is controlling stress levels and mental health. This is one of the main goals I have and had when practicing meditation.
Meditation does not come easy to me, I find it very difficult to clear my mind and quite frankly never know if I’m doing it correctly. I know what you are going to say, there is no right or wrong way .. but of course there must be! ha. For these reasons, I’m guilty to say that I have never really embraced meditation. Sure, I tried it for a month during my previous struggles with infertility, but it quickly dropped from my routine once I did get pregnant and I have not done it since.
Founder of MAHTAVA, guided yoga & meditation.
Ashleigh is a former co-worker and friend. We were talking about how overwhelmed I was feeling with everything going on and she suggested meditation. I was reminded of how meditation is beneficial for easing stress. I also remembered how just two years ago, I had done everything possible to optimize my chances of becoming pregnant and there is no reason not to do the same now. I think right now, it’s all happening so quickly, that of course there is not as much time. That should not be an excuse though! Especially for something like meditation, that can be done at home, on your own schedule and can take as little as 10 minutes a day. It’s time to stop making excuses and start doing!
Ashleigh was kind enough to come over Monday night to lead both Matt and I in a guided 20 minute meditation session. Yes, I did say Matt – He was open to trying it as well, which meant a lot to me. It was his first time trying meditation and I love that he is open and supportive in all the things that I am doing. It is so important during this time for the partner to be on board with everything as well. I know they are on board for having a child, but I feel like the woman take most of the physical and emotional tolls. A strong supportive partner through these struggles can make a world of difference.
It was amazing to observe how busy my mind was at the start and how much it calmed through the process, even though I felt like I was not doing it right.
My experience with the meditation session was similar to Matt’s. I felt like my mind was swimming in the beginning with so many thoughts and by the end of the session, I still had some random thoughts popping in and out, but they had reduced dramatically. For me, there is an intense feeling I get in between my eyebrows that I could never figure out in the past. I need to try to release control and just let go in order to go deeper. Someone once told me that it takes months of meditation before really, I believe it. It’s all about consistency and commitment. If I do not commit to it and do it consistently, it will not work for me. This is true with almost everything in your life.
We talked about how we could continue this practice on our own. I think it’s best to start with small increments and manageable goals then grow from there. My current goal is to do a 10 minute meditation session before bed every evening. I chose the evening instead of the morning because I feel like the morning is ideal for exercise, to wake myself up and energize for the day where meditation before bed will help me unwind and destress from the days activity. It sounds ideal in theory, but it means nothing unless I actively follow through. So I am saying it here, so you can hold me accountable. I will do 10 minutes of meditation every evening before going to bed! (Does laying down in bed count?!? lol )
Ashleigh also said she would record a 10 minute guided session for us to use as a guide! I am so grateful for all the amazing people around me.
Thank you Ashleigh for inspiring and motivating me to better myself and taking your time to help me in this journey.
Eight ways Mediation Can Improve Your Life
- Meditation reduces stress.
- It improves concentration. …
- It encourages a healthy lifestyle.
- The practice increases self-awareness. …
- It increases happiness.
- Meditation increases acceptance. …
- It slows aging.
- The practice benefits cardiovascular and immune health.